The joy and consolation of living Humanae Vitae is expressed by trusting in God's wonderfully creative design for familes. It is He who bestows the gift of new life. Married couples are called to co-operate in that Divine design. It helps when we put our trust in God, accepting that He knows the plan and purpose for our lives.
People outside the church (and sometimes those within) often have difficulty with the 'trust in God' bit. I don't think this was always the case, but the march of secularist materialism and the primacy of 'my body, my choice' has caused much disorientation, as I think a recent conversation demonstrates. This isn't verbatim, but here is the gist:
" So you've got eight kids ?"
" Yes, that's right, eight lovely children, they're..."
"so was that deliberate, did you plan it?"
"well, we believe children are a gift from God, so.."
"are they all yours, then?"
" Oh yes, all our own natural children"
" Well I never heard of anyone with eight kids before, with all that cooking and washing, you must be a glutton for punishment!"
" taking care of our children certainly involves lots of work, but I don't consider it to be a punishment, you see..."
" Oh well, whatever floats your boat.."